Dominant and Submissive Characteristics
Making of a Dominant
Well I began My experience as a Mistress early in life after noticing that I from a tender age I had always wanted to be heard, to lead and to dominate. I got conscious of this better as a teenager and would not date any boys but rather just having them run errands for Me or even beating them up because I grew quickly and was bigger than most of My pairs then. I got invited to a kinky party when I was 20 and saw a lot of fetish scenes with women dominating men and that was it. I started to be curious and the rest is history. So I have about 6 years experience in the SM lifestyle all together and have trained three males as my slave before now.
DOMINANT'S ROLE
- The Dominant agrees to care for the Submissive's wellbeing, including safety and mental and emotional wellbeing.
- The Dominant agrees to choose whatever activity they find appropriate from the Activity List for the scene.
- The Dominant accepts the responsibility to use their power to mold and shape the submissive.
- The Dominant accepts the responsibility of treating the Submissive properly, carrying out the punishments and rewards accordingly, and doing the things with the Submissive that seems fit.
- The Dominant agrees to always regard the Submissive's boundaries.
- The Dominant will be faithful to the Submissive and won't have any other Submissives unless otherwise agreed.
- The Dominant agrees to create a set of rules for the Submissive to obey and will ensure that the Submissive follows them.
- The Dominant has the right to control the Submissive's pleasure and allow them to climax when it sees fit to them.
SUBMISSIVE'S ROLE
- The Submissive agrees to submit to their Dominant completely within the scene or sexual play-time.
- The Submissive also agrees, during the scene, their body belongs to the Dominant, and their Dominant can do whatever they see fit.
- The Submissive has a right to use Safe Word to pause and stop the activity if they feel uncomfortable at any time.
- The Submissive should always follow and obey the Dominant's rules and expect to be punished if they disobey them as the Dominant sees fit.
- The Submissive agrees to be faithful, loyal, and honest with their Dominant at all times.
- The Submissive will respond to any Dominant's sexual needs as they see it fit, as long as the chosen activities were agreed upon in this contract.
- The Submissive agrees to always regard the Dominant's boundaries
The Submissive agrees to always act in a manner that is respectful to the Dominant during the BDSM scene.
- The Submissive agrees to revise the rules at the Dominant's ask.
Boiler Plate Commonly Pasted Dominatrix Text
Realistically, BDSM rules are a series of expectations. It's the sub agreeing to be the submissive, to give control to the Dom, and the Dom agreeing to use that power wisely and not abusively. A good set of rules should not be written in absolutes. Because life happens.
- Am not here for games or to play around and expect the same from you and also I want you to be upfront and honest with me so that we will not be wasting anyone's time here and most important get to know more about each other and see where this will lead us to
- Looking for a man who is very responsible and doesn't shed away from his responsibilities .A man who is willing to take very good care of the family and always stick the family together through thick and thin and hope you get me right?
- First of as my submissive you will have to learn to refrain from speaking in the first person singular, words like "I", "ME" shouldn't be used, instead, use words like, "this sub", "this submissive", "your sub", "your slave". Secondly, my submissive should not enter into the conversations of himself and his Mistress with anyone else love this to just be between you and i. And lastly, I will like you to stop going to the site we met. That will create a sign of seriousness and devotion to concentrate with her goddess.
- I am a DOMINANT woman, who enjoys training men on how to be a loyal and submissive man, ready to please his partner and how to live the alternate BDSM lifestyle. I've led the BDSM lifestyle for years now, i am not into blood or any form of permanent markings or bruises, i am not into much pain at all, rather, i like the kinky role play, bondage play, pussy worship, foot worship, and other special ways at pleasuring one's partner. My main aim is to derive pleasure in ways unexplainable. There is so much to this lifestyle i want to show to my potential sub. All i want is your obedience and loyalty, and above all, your submission to me as your mistress.
- I want us to form a bond of trust and comfort in this relationship before I invite you over to my private dungeon. I also believe we can develop a remarkable vibe and we can have an indoor discreet relationship but all our sessions will be held at my place. I want to state here that I am a clear-cut person and I have considered making you my sub. The reason why i asked you to deactivate your profile from the site we met is because i will not want to share my partner with anyone else, and as such, wouldn't want you communicating with anyone else on the site. I am a loyal mistress and want you to do same.
- My ideal man should be older, and Must be within the state, and must know that all meetings and sessions will take place at my private dungeon, Must know that this is an alternate lifestyle and not everyone is cool with it, and as such, should be willing to live this life with me discreetly.
- There are a few rules i'll be giving to you to ensure we're both on the same page here, and I don't end up with a substandard individual whose major aim is to have an orgasm. And is in no way whatsoever interested in the lifestyle, he pretends that he desires to serve the goddess, but his interpretation of service is to receive sexual services.
- Glad you got experience as well, makes everything more enjoyable, Well, this lifestyle is a very different one, and very mulch special. Not everyone will understand this lifestyle, so, i try to keep this part of my life as discreet as possible. So, before you can be my sub/slave, i want to know if you can be very discreet with this lifestyle. Because discretion is a must for me, due to my kind of job, and my family as well.
- As a female dominant on this BDSM site, I'm a confident and experienced individual who knows what I want and how to get it. I'm not just looking for a sub, but rather a partner who is willing to submit to my desires and be loyal sub
- I'm blonde yet powerful, with a commanding presence that demands attention. I can be both soothing and demanding, and I know how to use it to get what I want. I have a penchant for dressing in black leather and lace, and I take great pride in my appearance as a dominant woman
- You are to be pleasing at all times. Perfection of service and submission is your goal.
- You should never engage in any sexual practices or masturbation without My permission.
- You would serve me alone as faithfulness is a must.
Boiler Plate from Chained Fantasy
A Mistress/slave Contract
slave __________ Contract to Mistress __________
I, _______________, hereinafter referred to as slave, does of his own free will, and being of sound mind and body, offer himself in consensual slavery to __________________, hereinafter referred to as Mistress, for the period beginning at midnight on ___________ and ending at midnight on _______________.
PURPOSE
The purpose of this slave contract is to instill all that such servitude implies. This contract is written to make clear the expectations of Mistress and the consequences for failure to live up to this agreement. This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of the relationship between Mistress and slave. Both are committed to promoting health and happiness and improving both lives in the spirit of loving and consensual Dominance and submission, with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration. slave desires that virtue be a significant part of this relationship. Therefore it is agreed that fundamental to his slavery will be the practices of the virtues of trust, honesty, openness, loyalty and obedience. Without the practice of these virtues in this relationship to Mistress, there can be no true slavery. Their practice therefore, is expected and required at all times. These terms and conditions are set forth as a formal way of defining the rules by which both enter into this safe, sane and consensual relationship. With a signature, both Mistress and slave agree and accept that these terms and conditions cannot be altered in any way except by mutual consent.
DUTIES OF SERVITUDE
- It is the duty of slave to please Mistress.
- Personal duties will include the physical/emotional/financial needs of Mistress, amusement, sexual toy/plaything, physical comfort, waiting on Mistress as desired and needed.
- Slave is required to obey all commands given by Mistress within the constraints of this document.
- Slave agrees to show an attitude of respect at all times. Disrespect is a serious offense and wiII not be taken lightly.
- Respect includes manner of speech, promptness, proper answers, obedience, loyalty and honesty
- Respect and obedience are the two most important aspects of attitude. Failure will result in punishment
- Slave shall address Mistress as "Mistress" at all times without fail.
- Slave shall pay full attention to Mistress when spoken to.
- Slave will sit, stand, walk, kneel and lay where, when and how Mistress desires.
- Training is the prerogative of Mistress and Her decision alone, as are the type, style and pace.
- The attention of slave is to be focused on Mistress unless She commands otherwise.
- Slave shall conduct himself to never bring shame or embarrassment to Mistress' name or reputation.
- Slave will strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with his capability to serve Mistress and limit his growth as Mistress' submissive.
- Slave shall reveal his thoughts, feelings and desires without hesitation or embarrassment
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- Slave shall inform Mistress of wants and perceived needs, recognizing that Mistress is the sole judge of whether or how these shall be satisfied.
- Slave shall strive toward maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic expectations and goals.
- Slave shall work against negative aspects of his ego and insecurities that would interfere wlth advancement of these aims.
AVAILABILITY
- Slave will be unconditionally available to Mistress during agreed upon arrangements.
- Slave agrees that his body belongs to Mistress, to be used as She sees fit within the guidelines defined herein.
- Slave agrees to please Mistress to the best of his ability.
- Slave agrees that Mistress possesses the right to determine whether others can use his body and what use they may put it to. Mistress will discuss all such instances in advance with slave, to be certain that such play with others will not violate any established limits.
SAFE WORDS
- Slave is allowed safewords in all activities when necessary and trusts implicitly in Mistress to respect the use of said safewords.
- If a condition arises in which the slave needs to use a safeword, Mistress will assess the situation and determine an appropriate course of action. Caution: YELLOW, Stop: RED
- Once slave has recovered, the issues causing the use of the safeword will be discussed and a mutual arrangement for the future will be agreed upon.
- Slave agrees to feel pain, which is part of the training process, and the training cannot be done without it.
MISTRESS' RULES OF DISCIPLINE
- Slave will not accept or invite any act of discipline from anyone but Mistress. Any such attempts will be brought to the attention of Mistress as quickly as possible. In this area, slave has Mistress. expressed permission to resist any such attempts with any means at hand.
- The method and type of discipline, with the exception of physical and mental abuse, is the sole responsibility of Mistress.
- Mistress will use Her good judgement and fairness in deciding on the form of discipline, taking slave.s limitations into consideration.
- Slave will keep an accurate record of both the act that created the need for discipline and the punishment that was earned.
- When physical discipline is applied (includes hands, flogger, crop, etc.) slave will count out loud the number of strokes he is to receive and express his thanks to Mistress for Her attention. If slave loses track of the count, the count will begin from the start.
- Once the discipline has been completed, slave will be forgiven and the cause forgotten.
- All discipline will be fair and not without cause. If slave has displeased Mistress as a result of Mistress not being clear on Her rules and/or instructions, then no discipline is justified or will be given.
SPECIAL CONDITIONS
At NO time will the physical relationship (cyber, phone or real life) involve the following:
- children
- animals
- abuse (mental or physical)
- scat
- life-threatening
- body mutilation (including piercing, tattoos and branding).
- blood play
MISTRESS' RESPONSIBILITIES
- Protect and defend the honor and name of slave.
- Insure that slave never feels ignored or neglected.
- Maintain an honest relationship with slave.
- To assume absolute and total control of slave's mind and body, and therefore his development into the true submissive he desires to be.
I, slave ______________, offer my submission to Mistress _____________ under the terms stated above on this the _____ day of _____ in the year _____.
Signature of submissive ________________________________
I, Mistress ____________, offer my acceptance of slave's submission under the terms stated above on this the _____ day of _____ in the year _____.
Signature of Dominant ________________________________